A Life Coach is someone who can see what is behind our actions better than us.
Sometimes we are so much involved in the emotions that we loose clarity. We cannot see clearly what is affecting us, stopping us, holding us back or preventing us from getting to where we want to be.
A Life Coach will help you to find the solutions and make the right decisions to improve different aspects of your life.
You can always decide if that is what you want.
The Life Coach will provide you with opportunities to find answers to what is what you want in life.
A Coach is a person you can go to and see who will listen to you without judging you.
We need someone to talk to who can listen to us and who understand our needs and objectives in life.
Things that happen to us make us forget about our goals and dreams. A Life Coach can always remind us what is our purpose in life. What are the things that are important for us.
A Life Coach can guide us to find an answer or a path of action that leads us to where we want to be.
- To become accountable of myself
- To learn new strategies to deal with life
- To find out what is what you want in life
- To close the gap between the place you are now and where you want to be
- To develop new skills
Life Coaches help people in the following ways:
-Help people to reach their full potential
-Access those abilites and skills that will enhance their life
-Working with someone to improve an area in their life
-Learn to do things a little bit better
-Get someone to help you or teach you to do things better
-Being there for someone else
-Having someone to motivate you
-Finding balance in life
The value in life coaching comes from the fact that a Life Coach is there for you!
Every person has different needs and a coach can help people with different situations to complete a project, achieve results or improve a certain situation in their lives.
A Life Coach is someone who can see what is behind our actions better than us.
Sometimes we are so much involved in the emotions that we loose clarity. We cannot see clearly what is affecting us, stopping us, holding us back or preventing us from getting to where we want to be.
Karate Kid Scene
Daniel (the “Karate Kid”)
is quitting out of frustration because Miyagi
(his Karate teacher) has him waxing the car,
painting the house and brushing the floor day
in and day out, instead of teaching him
martial arts.
Miyagi shows him that he had been learning
the fundamentals all along and has actually
made big strides mastering them!
“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” ~ Pele
We want to do so many different things at the same time that we get stressed.
We don’t have time for ourselves with all the tasks that have to be done during the day.
We are not good at managing our time and we feel stressed.
We are stressed to be on time.
“We cannot be happy with ourselves if we feel we are not performing well or if we are under a lot of pressure”
We have a short period of time to complete big tasks.
In general time is a big factor of stress but we can do learn how to manage our time so we can reduce our levels of stress and be more effective.
Things we can do to be more effective with time are:
- Prioritize. Start with the things that are more important and/or urgent. Also by prioritising those too things.
- Plan ahead. If we plan it is less likely that we will end up with a lot of things that become urgent if we allocate a time to get them done before they turn into a stressful situation.
- Do not over saturate our calendars with activities on a special date.
- Delegate things that can be done by someonelse.
- Ask for help when necessary.
- Look at the big picture. What effect not doing this now would have in the long term?
- Allocate some time during the day to bring us to centre with deep breathing.
I can coach you so you can get training on how to manage your time better to be more effective and less stressed.
The pressure on being perfect: perfect mum, perfect at work, perfect wife, looking perfect can have a high price in our body and mind health if we don’t learn how to cope with it. Train yourself and get new skills on coping with stress.
These are 5 very effective steps to help you coaching your clients to SET UP GOALS and most importantly in helping them to achieve them.
1. Define your goals for a specific time frame it is better if you do it for the short time and long time.
2. Prioritize them. What is important to get done in that specific period of time. Some experts in goal setting call them your MUSTS (there are many things that would be nice to do but that are not really essential to the achievement of further goals)
3. Write down your goals in a SMART way:
S specific
M measurable
A achievable
R reasonable
T timely
People that write down their goals can achieve them because they have something to focus in.
4. Define the steps to follow
Don’t get stuck because you don’t know all the steps. Define the steps that you know that you should follow and little by little those steps will take you to the next and next step.
5. Identify possible obstacles and create plan to overcome them.
It would be great if things were as easy as we wish but the pleasure on achieving a goal is on overcoming the challenges that will be present. If we prepare ourselves or our clients to face those obstacles it will be easy to handle them and not to feel that everything is against us once we decided to pursue a dream or goal.
At the end of the day achieving our goals is equal to being happy with ourselves!
When we have a client that comes to us suffering from a lot of stressed caused by their life style we can ask them a few questions that are listed below:
- Putting myself to this much stress is something that I really need to go through?
- What can I simplify in my life to reduce the high levels of stress that I am experiencing?
- Who can help me to reduce the amount of stress?
- What kind of things should I pay less attention?
- What is what is really important for me?
You can ask these questions to yourself first!
In this society where there is a lot of pressure of having a certain life style people put themselves under so much stress that in many cases it is not necessary. They need to have this car, live in a type of house or suburb, travel overseas, have money to buy for themselves and for the whole family all these family gadgets.
The life style of many people also puts them into doing so many activities that are not easy to handle all at the same time. Swimming, gymnastics, ballet, soccer for the kids plus going to the gym, going out with friends.
Plus all the ideal life style myths like having a perfectly clean house, dressing fashionable.
Oh, my God! Once that I am writing this down I get to realise how much stress we volunteer for.
If we learn ourselves or teach our clients to define what is most important for us and we concentrate on smaller things the levels of stress reduce little by little.
We can also get access to resources. We don’t have to do everything. If having a perfectly clean house is important for us we can pay a cleaner (if we can afford it of course) or reduce the number of activities we are involved in.
If spending time with my kids is more important than having the expensive car, then I can find a less demanding job.
I have worked out some questions that help to reduce the stress:
1. What would happen if I don’t get this task completed today?
2. Is there anybody who can help me to get this task completed?
3. In a scale from one to 10 how urgent this is?
4. In a scale from one to 10 how important is this?
This questions help me to help people reduce their stress at work, people tend to overstress and concentrate on a very particular thing and they cannot see the big picture so they cannot act accordingly and prioritise to what is more important. Understanding the importance of tasks helps people to reduce stress. Also the fact that getting access to resources such as outsourcing activities or delegating can reduce the overload that many people experience at work.